ever go to eat what’s left of something you made or ordered for your kids and didn’t try the first time, and then think, damn, no wonder they didn’t eat this the other night? i guess this is a pretty specific problem. but damn if this isn’t the worst bolognese sauce i’ve ever had the displeasure of eating. sorry, kids. eta: for the record, this was in the...
are you done?
i get asked the question a lot. it honestly doesn’t bother me (this isn’t a ‘mind your business’ rant), it just …troubles me, a little. because really? i have no idea. and i guess i feel like i should. i took a photo the other night of greg and the girls and the frame just looks so complete. which feels so strange for me to say, because while wanting more than one...
nosmokewithoutpryor answered: something you and the girls could personalize? maybe a jewelry box that the girls help decorate, and you can fill w/ cheap toy jewelry? ooh i really like that idea a lot! i’ll keep you posted if that’s what we end up going with… thank you!
on anxiety ...over every little thing.
i posted a link to a blog yesterday that expressed with such remarkable acuity the agony i feel myself when making food choices for my family. but a similar anxiety spreads to my decisions about, well, nearly everything else. i’m suspicious of things that cost too little - child labor in stifling third world factories! illegal immigrants working on massive farms! government subsidies for...
keeping up with the joneses
or in this case the aunts-and-uncles-es. i know this kind of question can be annoying questions to answer but i’m really stuck, so i’m asking anyway. my brother- and sister-in-law are very generous gift-givers, especially with their nieces (i.e., my kids). their daughter is turning one in 2 weeks, so now we have to come up with a gift for her… but we’ve been trying...
The Terrible Tragedy of the Healthy Eater →
grilledcheese: This article sums up my feelings about healthy eating so perfectly. nailed it.
or maybe i'm missing the point entirely
i think i would pay cash money for a therapist who would ‘see’ me via email. i mean, for one thing, i get shy and nervous in person (proooobably the exact reason i should be doing it in person but whatevs) so i think i’d be more open via email. but also? i have no time!! i LOVE therapy. therapy is GREAT. it just doesn’t fit into my LIFE. but i’m sitting at a...
cause and effect
for a thirty-one-and-a-half-year-old woman, i have an astoundingly limited capability for internalizing the ramifications of some of the choices i make. it’s kind of a remarkable skill, actually, the degree to which i can seemingly willfully ignore what i should very obviously understand to be the results of a series of quite ordinary actions. and so it was with some actual shock, and not...
Click a few dots, and this program will try to... →
thekimenator: It’s part of an experiment to analyze how motor control changes with age. It nearly guessed my age [ 29- my birthday is next month]. What about you? via jtotheizzoe: i’m 31. it predicted me as 29. too bad nobody ever says, “your motor control looks good for your age.”
i'm still in the office
banging my head against a wall trying to get a report out with missing information and OF COURSE the only person who can answer my question is on the other side of the world.
i get a little (too) excited when the 2 soups being served in the work cafeteria both sound good to me, and seem like flavors that would work together, and then i combine them in one cup* and it’s DELICIOUS and i declare myself a goddamn culinary genius. i know no one cares what you had for lunch, but i really felt you needed to know this about me. *today it was potato leek and french...
you can go ahead and scoff (and really, you...
how's that resolution going?
(asked nobody at all. but whatever.) month 1, as reported, was a legitimate success. month 2, broke down already and bought a few items for the girls but only in larger/future sizes after finding myself in a carter’s store w/ a store credit from some returns, and an absurd sale going on (everything BO-GO-50%-off). month 3, caved again as far as shopping-for-the-kids was concerned, when i...
got the news
apparently i made it to the final round… but they went with the other candidate. it’s a complex cocktail of emotions because i had anxiety about each and every possibility of how this could have gone, and so while i’m extremely disappointed it’s over, i’m also pretty significantly relieved that it’s over. separately, i feel like i’m getting played...
as has become my custom for a few years in a row now… i will request that the mets put their collective fans out of any future misery and just end the season right now, on a high note.
i’d sort of come to peace with the fact that it didn’t look like i was going to get a new opportunity. i was feeling a little frustrated that they weren’t just direct with me but i’d decided/convinced myself it was for the best. tried to think about Things I’d Miss and focused on that. plus finally (FINALLY) the long-and-patiently-awaited ‘changes to...
Hurt people hurt people. That’s how pain patterns gets passed on, generation...– Yehuda Berg (via onlinecounsellingcollege) i’m living this right now. or, at least, i’m trying to. i held onto hurt and i saw myself starting to pass it on to my daughter. i met the problem head on (with help) and i’m starting to see clarity and optimism where before i saw only a...
sunday supper, eli + debra, 24 march
andreacarbine: jim and I have spent the last 4 years saying we are going to try and make a little more time for relaxing…so we finally took a sunday this week and enjoyed a great meal, some delicious vino, and some great company (thanks again eli + debra)! my idea was two-fold…first, jim keeps saying that he has some “must drink” bottles hiding in that wine fridge of his (the one I am “not to...
I have an addiction. It isn’t drugs or gambling: I get to keep what I use after...– Friday Night Lights author Buzz Bissinger on his Gucci addiction (via graceinsmallthings) i’m sorry, did somebody just say gucci …addiction? please just go ahead and shut the FUCK up right now.
thebluehour asked: Umm, I just ordered one yesterday. When I'm in NY for a weekend or if you get to Boston for a weekend, I demand a brunch date in matching t-shirts.
an update on london
that title is sort of intentionally vague… or, well, i guess it doesn’t seem vague but the thing is, i want to share some thoughts that have occurred to me while here, but that have actually very little to do w/ the trip itself. there are times that i wonder in all seriousness, if maybe i have a bit of manic tendencies? is there such a thing as ‘mild’ manic depression? (is...
breaking travel news
i’m really really really hungover.
and to celebrate this being probably the fastest i’ve ever gotten my shit together for any trip ever (seriously - we got home from a movie at midnight - that’s less than 2 hours!!!!) i’m exhausting myself to the breaking point with tumbling and general internet nonsense. smart move.
i just realized that since my brother cancelled on our plans for tonight, i probably should have gone out for lunch instead of eating the lasagna i brought in, which i made (at around 9pm) last night so that greg and the girls would have dinner taken care of tonight, in my absence. so now i’ll be home for dinner and either i’ll eat lasagna again (who am i, garfield?!) or they’ll...
kiddo in the office!
i brought harley to work with me today… day care isn’t closed or anything, but she’d been begging to visit “mommy’s office” for a while now. unfortunately (while i knew this to be true i probably was in a little too much denial) the idea of it is WAY COOLER than actually doing it. for one thing, my commute is long. and while the train did hold her interest, my...
Why Do Most Women Still Take Their Husband''s Last... →
thebluehour: “Your name is your identity. The term for you is what situates you in the world. The cultural assumption that women will change their names upon marriage – the assumption that we’ll even think about it, and be in a position where we make a “choice” of whether to keep our names or take our husbands’ – cannot be without consequence.” It would be weird if upon marriage, I expected...
i beat the system!
so, yknow how you can loan a kindle book to someone for 14 days? well… more than 14 days ago, my friend lent a book to me. i don’t actually have a kindle proper, i have the kindle app on my ipad. i was reading said book on my flight home from san francisco, w/ airplane mode turned on. i got tired and put the ipad away (i don’t think i technically turned it OFF off for the...
those cameras at day care are a blessing and a curse. sometimes i see more than i really want to see. like the time i saw harley totally ignored and she subsequently had an accident. or right now, watching harley and her friends fight over one blanket-cum-‘prince cape’ while they play dress-up when i’m sure there’s a far more productive and enjoyable-for-all way they...
Sabrina vs. Clarissa →
i mean, i think you should know where i stand on this issue.
marissa effing mayer ...or not?
i’m having a real moral dilemma about this situation/her in general. because on the one hand, i can accept that as a CEO she ‘gets’ to be a hypocrite. what works for one does not necessarily work for all when you’re trying to run an enormous corporation - i don’t know, because i’ve never done it and how on earth could i judge? but i can’t help the feeling of wanting to...
i used to be a real spaz about dialing internationally. had to look up that damn code every single time. it has finally become second nature to me and i don’t even have to think about it anymore which is still a little weird and awesome. good thing it finally clicked in my little hamster wheel brain since i only deal w/ people in the uk now.
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or...– David Cain, “Procrastination Is Not Laziness” (via sociolab) THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH. (via the31styear) HOLY SHIT! i’ve never seen my entire being explained so succinctly in 4 little paragraphs. (via definitelyjennifer) isn’t it a little bit sad how true this really is? makes me feel kind...
don't talk about it, just do it
so, uh, i struggle with this. like, kind of a lot. i’m full of promises and big ideas and my follow through is a little lacking. i’d like to blame this on perfectionism—if it can’t be perfect i get frustrated and don’t want to do it at all—but that’s just trying to put a positive spin on laziness—if you don’t want to work hard enough to get it...
Why It's Awesome To Be From New Jersey →
“It’s a traffic system in which turning traffic exits right to go left. Why? Because screw you, that’s why!” [heylaney] [catinreallife:emilyroseyg:faybles]
i mean, you probably shouldn’t listen to...
obnoxious question i need to ask
lug the (quite, bizarrely so) heavy vase of flowers home b/c they’re still beautiful & that way i can enjoy them over the weekend? or leave them here b/c damn that vase is heavy and if i take them i’ll be that super obnoxious girl the whole way home with a vase of flowers?
dictionaryofobscuresorrows: n. a conversation in which everyone is talking but nobody is listening—each telling stories of their grandparents, their funny dog story, their embarrassing high school memory—together overlaying disconnected words like a game of Scrabble, each player borrowing bits of other anecdotes as a way to increase their own score, until we all run out of things to say. this...
Cheesecake Factory. Seriously. They consistently make more people happy than any...– David Chang, Momofuku, NYC http://www.bonappetit.com/blogsandforums/blogs/bafoodist/2013/02/chefs-pick-top-restaurants.html it’s important not to be pretentious